Kittycakes 2 Deals/Reviews as a lupie: April 2016

     I hate confrontation for various reasons and 1 being of my childhood and my parents frequently arguing which resulting me questioning my existence as I cried in the corner. I will try to avoid it at all costs if possible. There comes a point that even the nicest person will get fed up when a person constantly makes an effort to jab at them and their family, culture, relationships and existence.

   My boyfriend , for anonymity call him John and his mother Barb , father Bill , brother Pete, Aunt Karen . I will put a key down below for easy reference. A bit of back history needs to be told first.....

       John and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years and it has taken me 1 good year to get John to realize what his mom has been doing . Barb has been making underhanded comments about me and my culture and anything or everything in between.
Last year on my birthday which I spent with John ; John did not feel well and I had gotten into essential oils and new some had worked for John in the past and so after John had asked Barb to bring us some Popeye's spicy for my birthday and she did so begrudgingly im sure. When she got here she gave John my gift bag which contained a small tie dye Build A Bear bear and a $10 giftcard . I honestly didnt think she was going to go all out with what had previously happened. I asked for her o take me to the health store to pick up some Essential oils for John and my Prescription Pain meds . These pain meds I had worked hard to get . These pain meds are strong as they are the strongest you can get without being hospitalized.
We get to the pharmacy and we have to wait as there was an issue with insurance and while waiting im discussing what needs to be done for John in terms as getting his insurance together, assistance with food etc.. I'm being nice and still trying to include her in her son's care despite what previous experience has taught me . She goes off yelling at me about how it has nothing to do with my insurance . It ends with her continuously yelling with "John is the only one that hurts, John is the only one that doesnt feel good, John is the only one that is sick" while the whole pharmacy waiting room is staring at us including employees I juat get up to her im done with her and leave in tears. After a quick purchase I call John while outside and tell him what happened . Barb comes out doesnt see me and I hear her say , "I dont have time for this!" It results in me calling my mother to pick me up and Barb to this day denying that she yelled, not what she said but that she yelled and this is the store that both of my sisters had worked at for a long time.

   Fast-forward to today or more present....

   I had told John of a restaurant that is owned by a Mediterranean restaurant that my family knows the owners. More specifically 1 of my uncles is very good friends with the owners. He suggested this place to her and we go . The owner holds open the door as I hobble in with my single tipped cane and I great him with the standard "Sal-am" . I don't think he heard me or payed much attention until we were at the register and I told him that I hadn't been there and he knows my uncles . He asked my uncles last name as I assumed he couldn't tell by my face. As soon as he recognized the name he decided to offer me Persian hot tea as its a customary thing to do in Iran if you at at a friend's house. Barb is getting annoyed by us talking and makes sure he understands that she wants unsweet tea . I ask if he has a certain dish that I love and he says no but if I call him 1 day in advance he will make it for me.The guy , lets call him Moon says that hes giving it to me and that its his gift to me. You can see the displeased look in her facial expression as he tells an employee to get me some persian hot tea as its his gift to me and introduces us. Moon then invites me to dinner at his house , family dinner and mentions that he will pick me up ; he gives me his business card with his cell number and tells me to call anytime and to make sure I call 1 day before I come and he will make my favorite dish. She continued with her order questioning John if she should get dessert now or later and then it comes to John and me ; we get the same thing and Moon asks what side we all want but looks at me and says I know you want the rice, all Persians get the rice. I go ahead with that and of course everyone follows suit.

Barb is off getting her drink and I go sit down as the tea is meeting us at a table and sit down while John gets our drinks. The food shortly comes and Barb already starts shoving it down her throat. While she does that John points out how good it looks and that I got more than him or Barb. Barb glances over at my plate and hers and grumbles. Im still sipping the hot tea and so is John but of course she has to try it , im assuming to say that shes "cultured". She asks John weather to put the honey in 1st or after pouring the tea and he follows what I did of course. As we were eating Moon comes by the table to get my information so he can call me to pick me up for family dinner.
       I talk to John about going to Iran to visit family there and Barb makes a comment about the music in the back and how hes talking to them etc. I ignore that as I catch her glancing up at me for what I assumed to be a reaction. She then picks on another thing and another till I couldn't stand it and I made some comment and she replies " at the other place it is, its been like that forever , since i've taken the boys" At this point i'm really no longer hungry as she's pissing me off beyond measure and at a family friend's restaurant!
I start talking to John about going to Iran to travel , visit family etc. She has to chime in
   " he can't go there , he doesnt have a passport" she gets up for dessert , I dont know why considering that shes well over 300lbs and alot of her physical ailments that she self diagnoses herself with can be helped with either diet, exercise or combination.
                 and I said "well, good thing we were going to do one anyway"
               " He cant go ! He doesnt know anyone there!"
               before getting up to stretch my legs and check on John I let out...
               "Good thing he's an adult and he can make those decisions"....
                Grumbles.... "He can't go! I wont let him!"
   I pretty much roll my eyes and just smile and walk over to the front counter to talk to Moon and get some dessert. He again very loudly tells me to call him anytime and to come to his house for family dinner and that he will drive me and I ask him if its ok that my boyfriend comes. He replies with what is your boyfriend's name ?
I tell him "John"
"John?"
"yes, john"
"Yes your boyfriend John can come too and I will pick you up " loud enough for John to hear even with his hearing going.
I proceed to tell him how his mother is and how horrible she treats me .
He said some women are like that and to not mind her that she will have to get over it . He says to call him anytime .

          More recently.....
We were going to go eat , Barb, Bill, John and myself. She asks John "how about we take dad to that new place we found the other day ? John pauses and asks me ... at this point im thinking "we found?" Im the one that told you people about it otherwise you would have not known!!!
                        Thinking quick I say "I wouldnt go there by yourself if I were you , he really doesnt like you"
     Bill chuckles and Barb thinks long to come up with "its foodservice , you dont have to like someone"
I respond " I just wouldnt especially if you dont know the language!"!"
   I wait till were seated and shes directly across from me and let out .... " you dont have to like someone to poison them !"
    She shuts up finally and we look over the menus and while doing so I have a conversation with John about how when you act like trash you get treated like trash . I continue with how Moon treated us and the way she acted and how he went to my family's gathering and how they never once treated him like that . I glanced out of the corner of my eye and caught her glance at me. I would ask hypothetical questions but was sure to break in between to thank the waitress for refills and such . I remember asking him if he wanted to go to Iran because he is an adult and can make decisions unless he wants to be stuck being treated like a little kid all his life in which case im moving on because I am not going to have to ask permission to do things with my 31 yr old boyfriend. I looked up or out of the corner of my eye periodically and see her hands shaking and her slowly moving food around against her cheeks. John says she does that when shes angry.
    I dont remember all that I said but John said that I listed off everything she had did wrong and that I was loud . That there was his dad and his friend in the next booth that stared . He also said that I am the only other person that has been able to shut her up ... EVER. I asked whom the other was.... her MOM! John says that she shut up and then acted like everything was normal as we went to a bookstore after because "something clicked in her head and she finally got that she was wrong and what she did was wrong" He repeated that her mom was the only one that has been able to make an impact on her that he knows of his entire 31 years .Apparently she is really scared and hates her mother.
    I felt bad but at the same time , she has humiliated me in front of various people I know , on my birthday and more . Why am I still having horrible feelings about doing so , ive been thinking and possibly because I actually have feelings, morals etc... things that a basic, normal human being should have ; especially to someone that hasn't done anything to you . To the person that repeatedly had said he wants to marry and that on separate occasions hes confessed under no pressure that she is the reason why he keeps living and is all his happiness.

    The fact that while your son was on 3 separate locations hospitalized : 5 days 4 nights , 9 days 8 nights, and 5 days 4 nights that you only came up to see him when your mother and stepbrother came to visit him . That you refused to take me to get my life sustaining meds when I asked and when he was too embarrassed to let the nurse give him a sponge bath you watched and sucked on your drink from the giftcard that I gave you as I struggled to do so without and withdrawing from pain meds . Not even offer to help. I'm not comparing her to what my sisters have in their marriages but rather a decent human being would do. I guess I shouldn't really be surprised as this is the same person who compulsively lies and spreads rumors when she cant compete to make her life into a living drama series . If the 53 year old "adult" cant even say thank you when someone does something for her then how can have any empathy for another?

   She tells her oldest that seizures and pulmonary embolisms are all "in his head" and he can just "stay away from the people that cause them" . Yet, she believes her 27 yr old who not only said he had cancer and went to his heart but had a 1) mechanical heart replacement . Pig heart valve replacement yet magically doesnt have a scar at all on a pale white chest , doesnt take ANY MEDS or sees ANY DOCTOR because he hates them and DRINKS SEVERAL ENERGY drinks DAILY if not MORE. When I met him I ordered a pizza from my uncles shop and he like his mother put on a show. I was a few years younger then was naive enough to believe him when he ate a few slices (3 at least) and with dramatic effect "MY HEaRt is SHUttInG dooowwnn' . He claimed that he couldnt eat pork because he was "allergic" since his transplant . I stepped back and thought of this day .... he is ALLERGIC to PORK but had a PIG valve replacement? He also CONTINUES to eat , .... SAUSAGE !!!! He must be SUPER powered to be able to pull that off and SUPER healing . Guess that makes sense since 1 day he thinks hes a member of the Insane Clown Posse and another he is Green Lantern and any acting out he does is him having a "mental breakdown" and excused .

   ** As it is now 6:09 a.m. and this is turning into 2 posts instead of the one titled , I shall leave it here.
Let me know down below your most ridiculous boyfriend or medical situation you have heard

               See ya in my next post FuzzyBunns!!!!!!!!!!!!! <3



                            LOVE~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

             <3 PRINCESS SPARKLY KITTY <3

Kittycakes 2 Deals/Reviews as a lupie

Sunday, April 24, 2016

Confronting the "MIL". MIL is a MUCH MUCH nicer abreviation.

Urban Active Sports ~ Running Belt